Parents of children born like this drown in the sea of ​​sorrow

Losing your child is probably the biggest sorrow and shock in this world. No one wants this trouble even for his/her enemy. When a dead child is born i.e. stillbirth or the death of a child shortly after birth, the parents are deeply shocked and many physical changes take place in their bodies. These changes can affect the health of the parents in the long run and can have an impact on both mental and emotional aspects. We will know from Dr. Manju Gupta, Senior Consultant Gynecologist, Motherhood Hospital, Noida, what kind of changes come in the life of parents after neonatal death and stillbirth.


physical changes


Pregnancy changes the body in many ways and after stillbirth or neonatal death, the body goes through a process called involution. In this process, the uterus tries to return to its old size and shape. This process may take a few weeks to a few months and involves the shedding of the uterine lining called lochia. Lochia may be heavy and may take several weeks to pass. Because of this, parents keep remembering the pain of losing their child.

emotional changes

​Parents also go through emotional changes after a stillbirth or neonatal death. Everyone feels grief differently and everyone has a different way of dealing with it. Parents may feel guilty after a stillbirth or neonatal death. They may feel that they did not do some things during pregnancy due to which this has happened. They may consider themselves responsible for the death of the child.

feel angry

Parents may feel angry at themselves, at their partner or at the doctor or even at the dead baby. They feel that whatever happened was wrong and why it happened. Some parents isolate themselves and want to face their grief alone. They feel that they cannot talk to those people who have not felt this pain.

how to handle

In this situation, parents should take the help of counseling. With this, they can learn to handle their emotions and pain. Here parents can find help to talk about their feelings, ask questions, and move through grief. You can also join support groups to connect with other parents like you. Knowing their experience and advice can reduce your pain a bit. Apart from this, parents should also pay attention to their care. Get enough rest, eat nutritious food and do things that make them happy. This can make you feel physically and emotionally healthy.